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How to Quickly Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking

Quickly Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking

Quickly Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking

How to Quickly Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking

You can quickly overcome your fear of public speaking by following a few simple strategies. Do your knees start to knock and your throat start to close thinking about public speaking? Do imagine forgetting everything you planned to say? You can rid yourself of the overwhelming anxiety in the pit of your stomach. These symptoms of the fear of public speaking can be overcome by following the advice on this episode of My Biz Dream Team: Opportunity Wednesday Training Series.

1. Being Nervous vs Being Afraid

I understand your fear of public speaking. My entire professional life as an attorney, presenter, and spokesperson was all about public speaking. As an entrepreneur, I am often asked to make remarks or speak about my business. Each time I stand up to speak, I am nervous. Being nervous is a good thing. It gives me the edge to do my best. I do not want to be complacent about the opportunity to influence and persuade my audience. However, being nervous and being afraid are two different emotions.

2. The Solution

To help you overcome the fear of public speaking, I recommend that you what I did. Schedule yourself to speak in public on a regular basis. The more you speak, the less afraid you become. Like swimming, you just need to jump into the water! As you do more public speaking, you become a better public speaker and more confident in your abilities. You will quickly overcome your fear of public speaking after a few months of regular speaking. You realize that you will not forget your prepared remarks. You realize that the audience will not laugh at you. In fact, the audience will support and follow your lead if you provide them valuable information that helps them solve their problems.

3. Implementing the Solution

You can quickly overcome your fear of public speaking by making sure that you speak in public at least once a month. When six weeks passed without making a presentation, I felt rusty and more anxious when I returned to the stage. Make sure that does not happen to you. Make public speaking a habit. There is no better way to position yourself as an authority.

You can find opportunities to speak online or offline. I highly recommend that you start podcast. For example, you can interview guests or discuss issues of concern to your audience. To receive more in-depth information about the power of podcasting see the following blog posts.

How You Can Make Podcasting Absolutely Enjoyable

How to Quickly Identify Your Ideal Client 

How to Attract New Clients Through Speaking and Writing

 

You may also want to pursue opportunities offline in your local community. Local business associations, libraries, and civic organizations are always looking for speakers. Prepare a speech or presentation on an interesting topic and then schedule yourself to speak. It has been my experience that the best way to quickly overcome the fear of public speaking is to start speaking in public on a regular basis.

Conclusion/Call to Action

Are you ready to quickly overcome the fear of public speaking? If so, schedule yourself to speak regularly. The more frequently you speak the more confident you will become.  You will find that will quickly overcome the fear of public speaking when you begin to speak in public on a regular basis.

 

At My Biz Dream Team, we can show you how to develop an internet lifestyle business that can help you reach your money goals. Check out The Strategic Pathway to Success Program™. Let us show you how to reach your goal of creating a lifestyle and a business that you love! Act today.

 I am Pamela Montgomery, attorney, author, entrepreneur, and speaker, helping you create the life of your dreams as you achieve uncommon results in your business and in your life!

 

 

 

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The 9 Best Steps that Will Improve Work-life Balance

The 9 Best Steps that will Improve work-life Balance

The 9 Best Steps that Will Improve Work-life Balance

The 9 Best Steps that Will Improve Work-life Balance

Imagine if you had the 9 best steps that will improve your work-life balance. How would that impact your life?

Do you resemble this old saying: “An entrepreneur is someone who will work sixteen hours a day to keep from working eight hours for someone else.”? This is often too true in the early days of a start-up.  You are trying to get your business off the ground and focusing on making a profit.

Spending time with your family often gets a low priority. In your quest for making a profit, my advice is “Do not neglect your family.” If you are not intentional in making connections and commitments with your family you may find yourself alone.

Remember the Reason “WHY”

You may be like many people who start a business to have more time with your family. But often you find yourself spending less and less time with them. Some commentators talk about the work-life balance. I do not think those two aspects of your life can ever really balance. But you can intentionally communicate and act with integrity to maintain a fabulous relationship with your family.

Do not let your business cost you your family.

 I have seen far too many people end up divorced and estranged from their children because of a lopsided devotion to work.  Yes, it is fine to be ambitious. I certainly understand the desire to get more clients, increase sales and make more money. However, you must remember the underlying reason for your work and ambition. The reason is usually to support and show love for your family.

Dexter and I have been married 35 years. We have raised our son.  At the center of this relationship is a deep commitment to each other and our shared dreams for our life together. Occasionally, I have missed my wedding anniversary, my husband’s birthday, and even Halloween for out-of-town business trips. But, I made it clear that the short-term sacrifice was for our family’s long-term benefit.

So, what can you do to be intentional in finding a balance between your business and your family so that neither suffers?

1. Set a time to stop working and then stick to it.

When you work for yourself it is sometimes hard to know when to quit. You could work around the clock. However, you need to set a time to stop working and stick to it. This may be hard. But, if you want to keep your relationship with your family going well you need to spend time with them. Decide what times you will work and when you will stop. This may need to be adjusted for big projects. But keep your family informed so they will know what to expect.

Neil Pasricha, bestselling author of The Happiness Equation, in a recent blog post advises that you (1) limit checking emails to twice a day, and (2) create 30-second barriers to after-work phone-checking.

2. Tell your family in advance if you have a tight deadline.

If you have a tough deadline coming up or a special project, explain it to your family in advance. Ask for their help in letting you complete the project undisturbed. Offer an ethical bribe such as pizza night and the movies if they would leave you alone for a few hours to complete your project.

3. Explain to your spouse and children the importance of your business.

Your family needs to understand the importance of your business. Help them to understand that this is your work. It is how you help provide housing, food and clothes for the family. You are not playing video games or watching movies. Let them know your long-term goals. What do you hope to achieve with your business? If they can share your vision, life becomes much easier.

4. Set up a private space for your office.  

Try to have a space set up that is for work only. When you walk away, leave the work behind for the day. Do not bring your laptop into the family room and work. When you are with your children and your spouse, give them your complete attention.

5. Learn to be in the moment

When you are working, do not worry about the children. When you are with your children, do not stress about work. Let your family know how important they are to you and how much you love them.

6. Keep your commitments to your family

Your commitments to your family are just as important as those to your clients. Do not make it a habit of canceling on family commitments. They will quickly learn that they are a low priority in your life. If you say you are going to take the children skating or to the movies, then do so. If you agree to hire a sitter, and go out with your husband on Saturday, then do so.

7. Do not procrastinate

There is nothing worse than having two weeks to work on a project and then waiting until the last minute to get started. You will snap at your spouse and children about how you must get your work done. The truth is it is your fault for waiting so long.  Do not take it out on your family. Learn some great strategies to deal with procrastination in this blog post: How to Absolutely Overcome the Deadly Procrastination Habit.

8. Find other interests

Find a hobby that helps you feel relaxed and brings you joy. Not everything is about money. Volunteer for your favorite non-profit. Or join a service organization like the Rotary Club. I have greatly enjoyed meeting other business leaders and working with them on community service projects.

Neil Pasricha, bestselling author of The Happiness Equation, also advises in a recent blog post, that you know how you are using the time that you are not working or sleeping. Be very intentional about how you use that “third bucket.”

9. Find Time for Yourself

You cannot be so focused on the business or the family that you neglect yourself. Finding time for yourself is essential to your well-being and peace of mind. Taking time for yourself is not selfish. Rather it gives you time to refresh, refocus, and recharge. Find out more about this topic in this blog post: Finding Time for Yourself: “Me Time”

Conclusion/Call to Action

By following the 9 best steps that will improve work-life balance you may find that you have strengthened your relationship with your family as you grow your business. Those two aspects of your life do not have to be mutually exclusive. By following the steps discussed above, you can build a lifestyle and a business that you love.

Leave me a comment on how you work to achieve work-life balance.

 At My Biz Dream Team, we can show you how to develop an internet lifestyle business that can help you reach your money goals. Check out The Strategic Pathway to Success Program™. Let us show you how to reach your goal of creating a lifestyle and a business that you love! Act today.

 I am Pamela Montgomery, attorney, author, entrepreneur, and speaker, helping you create the life of your dreams as you achieve uncommon results in your business and in your life!

 

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Finding the Highest Best Purpose for Your Life

Finding the Highest Best Purpose for Your Life

Finding the Highest Best Purpose for Your Life

Finding the Highest Best Purpose for Your Life

Finding the highest best purpose for your life sounds like a daunting task. Why would you even bother? Because you may be one of those persons who has dutifully done everything that you were told to do. You got good grades, a good education, and a good job. But now you feel like you are “living for the weekend.”  

Where is the satisfaction, passion, and fun in your life and career?

I felt that way after many years working in a job that no longer challenged me or gave me joy. I had stayed there too long.

Like me, you may be thinking about leaving your 9-5 job. You may wonder “what do I do next.”  This article will discuss the first step that you can take that will lead you to finding the highest purpose for your life.

Imagine If…

Start by brainstorming what you would love to do, if money were no object. You have enough money to cover your expenses and some left over for fun. This is a list of possibilities. Do not filter yourself.  

How would you spend your days, if you had the freedom to spend your days any way you wanted to?

Would you:

  • Shop?
  • Paint glorious watercolors?
  •  Go back to college and earn a degree in art history?
  • Travel the world?
  • Rescue animals?
  • Work with abused women?
  • Plant a garden?

If you get stuck, think about what you do on weekends and holidays. Nearly everyone looks forward to relaxing and enjoying their favorite activities after the workweek is done. What are the activities you most enjoy?

The purpose of this exercise is not to make a realistic list of business opportunities, but rather to make a list of possibilities, so do not censor yourself. Write down whatever pops into your head without considering if you can make money with it, whether you will love it forever, or even if you have the skills or talent for it.

That is, after all, what brainstorming is all about. Unfiltered ideas. We will sort them out later.

Conclusion/Call to Action

Take this exercise seriously. This is the first step to finding your highest best purpose for your life. During the next few days, I will share with you a few other actions that you can take to help bring you clarity about your purpose. 

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I am Pamela Montgomery, the attorney, author, and online business strategist working with entrepreneurs, speakers, and authors as they create the lives of their dreams and achieve uncommon results.

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Healthy Lifestyle: 3 Choices You Can Make Today!

Healthy Lifestyle Choices

Healthy Lifestyle Choices

Healthy Lifestyle: 3 Choices You Can Make Today!

A healthy lifestyle is something that we all aspire to. Sometimes, however, we find that life gets in the way! As you end 2016, perhaps you can start moving in the right direction with our healthy lifestyle choices. Rather than waiting until January 1 for the new year, you can start today. By January 1, you would have gained momentum and be well on your way to becoming a more fit, healthy, and happy entrepreneur. Join me on this journey!

Here are 3 healthy lifestyle choices that you can begin including in your life today.

1. Include a Daily Exercise Routine

Never forget the importance of a daily exercise routine. Per a 2014 report of the American Medical Society for Sports Medicine, “exercise is the countermeasure for aging.” Keeping fit is your responsibility. You do not need 60 hours of cardio or to lift 200 pound weights. A simple power walk will suffice, but do it daily and stick to it. Consistency is the key! I enjoy taking a morning walk through neighborhood. When it gets too hot or too cold, I walk inside at the local mall. If you are serious about reversing the effects of aging and maintaining your muscle mass, you may want to include the stretching routines of Miranda Esmonde-White. You can follow Miranda’s routines in her book: “Aging Backwards: Reverse the Aging Process and Look 10 Years Younger in 30 Minutes a Day.”

 

2. Pay Attention to What You Eat

You only have one body. How you feed it is up to you. A happy body needs the proper nutrients for brain power and health. Avoid foods that only drag the body down. When you eat right, you feel great. To help you prepare your body for healthy food choices, you may first want to rid your body of toxins. I recommend the10-Day Green Smoothie Cleanse”, by JJ Smith. In her book, Smith emphasizes the importance of “taking control of your health by caring for your body by feeding it what it needs to be slim, healthy, and vibrant.”  The smoothies are delicious!

3. Start Your Day with Gratitude

You can choose to start your day grumpy and irritable or you can choose to start your day grateful that you were given another chance to enjoy a joyful, purposeful, loving life. The choice is always yours. Choose to wake up declaring a few things you are grateful for. Watch how this daily habit changes your day and your life. To help you understand the importance of starting your day with gratitude, read The Power of Intention,” by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Per Dr. Dyer, “Gratitude is a sacred space where you allow and know that a force greater than you is always at work and always available.”

Call to Action

Join me on this journey to create a healthy, joyful, and exciting life by making healthy lifestyle choices. We can begin today by making the three choices discussed above:

  • Include a daily exercise routine
  • Pay attention to what you eat
  • Start each day with gratitude

Then buy your three reference books to help you on your journey:

 

Leave a comment on my web site and let me know if you are  joining me on this journey!

I am Pamela Montgomery, an attorney, author, and online business strategist working with entrepreneurs, speakers, and authors as they create the life of their dreams and achieve uncommon results!

 

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